A Critical Conversion
Too frequently the news of the day is about another disastrous case of a young person who takes his or her own life after being bullied. This merciless harassment of the weaker and more vulnerable members in a group no doubt has existed ever since young men needed to prove their masculinity. Beyond calculation are the unreported occurrences of this ageless persecution since the bully is hidden—inside you!
Everyone has one. Since childhood, your hidden oppressor has crudely taunted your weaknesses and bodily deficiencies. Your invisible persecutor enjoys making you feel deficient and to view others as superior to you, constantly pointing out your inability to measure up to that old grade school admonition:
Good, better, best.
Never let it rest.
Until your good is better
and your better is best!
No one can be the best in everything. Your interior chastiser nevertheless relentlessly requires you keep improving your work until it is perfect. After years of this endless persecution, can’t something be done about this bullying?
The best thing you can do is to convert your inflictor, and you can begin by going to the dictionary. You will find under the word “bully” that the British use it as an exclamation for anything splendid or excellent. It can also mean “dashing or gallant” and, most important, even “a sweetheart or lover!”
Today, begin the transformation of your cruel inner-critic into your lovable friend who in the act of spotlighting your mistakes provides you with realistic feedback. Critical is “realistic” since each of us is our own Minister of Propaganda who endlessly produces excuses for our careless mistakes and procrastinations. Your converted ex-bully—now your friendly adviser—helps you to achieve excellence by critically judging whatever you do. So rejoice in your new rare gift of a personal trainer and critic-coach of excellence.
Everyone has one. Since childhood, your hidden oppressor has crudely taunted your weaknesses and bodily deficiencies. Your invisible persecutor enjoys making you feel deficient and to view others as superior to you, constantly pointing out your inability to measure up to that old grade school admonition:
Good, better, best.
Never let it rest.
Until your good is better
and your better is best!
No one can be the best in everything. Your interior chastiser nevertheless relentlessly requires you keep improving your work until it is perfect. After years of this endless persecution, can’t something be done about this bullying?
The best thing you can do is to convert your inflictor, and you can begin by going to the dictionary. You will find under the word “bully” that the British use it as an exclamation for anything splendid or excellent. It can also mean “dashing or gallant” and, most important, even “a sweetheart or lover!”
Today, begin the transformation of your cruel inner-critic into your lovable friend who in the act of spotlighting your mistakes provides you with realistic feedback. Critical is “realistic” since each of us is our own Minister of Propaganda who endlessly produces excuses for our careless mistakes and procrastinations. Your converted ex-bully—now your friendly adviser—helps you to achieve excellence by critically judging whatever you do. So rejoice in your new rare gift of a personal trainer and critic-coach of excellence.
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