Broken Hearts Day
One week before Valentine’s Day should be the much needed celebration of the Day of Broken Hearts! It would commemorate those who have suffered a painful bankruptcy of a love affair or the loss of something dearly desired. Red hearts and romantic images present everywhere before Valentine’s Day can be sad reminders of a former love or lover. Florist and chocolate merchants’ romantic advertisements can easily tear off the scab on a wound of a fractured relationship.
Those injured by an unwelcomed conclusion of a love affair in which they had deeply invested themselves can suffer excruciating pains of loss, rejection and depression. Who personally has not at some time in their life suffered a cracked heart or have known someone who had? Literature, the theater and country songs frequently depict the tearful anguish of a love affair smashed into pieces. In an English cemetery is a tombstone dated 1845 inscribed, “Forget all feuds, and share an English tear, o’er English dust, a broken heart lies here.” Television commercials abound in new improved medical cures for every sort of pain and affliction…except a broken heart. I also don’t recall any fairy tales in which someone finds a magical cure to heal a heart cracked into pieces. For those presently suffering this incurable ancient heart problem be hopeful, for help is possible today.
Psychology professor Walter Mischel of Columbia University believes that since psychological pain is quite similar to physical pain one can use aspirin or ibuprofen to help heal either one! Since the same area of the brain is activated when your lover rejects you as when you hurt your arm he prescribes common aspirin in light of clinical tests which have proven it can help heal a lover’s rejection better than those given a placebo. Ibuprofen or aspirin can help reduce your emotional pain and depression if…if…you do not discuss your break up with your friends or personally revisit memories of that excruciating experience.
Whenever you unconsciously think thoughts of your ex-lover, briefly and sincerely pray for her or his peace and happiness. Then with steely tenacity think of something else. Prayerful wishes for a former lover, plus good brain laundry, will slowly cause that painful sense of rejection to dissipate.
The death of a beloved after many years of faithful loving causes not a broken but an amputated heart! Find comfort from the inconsolable pain in the fact that we live in an evolutionary universe where quantum physics declares the mind’s devised dualities do not exist: i.e., them and us, heaven and earth, and death and life! As human bodies we feel separate, different from others. Yet in reality we’re part of an unbroken, undivided whole. Quantum entanglement is the term for when two bodies, even when separated at a distance, instantaneously influence each other. Let photos, old gifts and treasured keepsakes of your deceased beloved be powerful holy relics that radiate their invisible presence. When a quantum theory theologian was asked where our beloved dead are, he answered, “They’re right here, all around us in a parallel existence!”
Whenever you desire to be with your deceased lover, with love-soaked desire reach out your open hand into the space around you, close your eyes and believe.
“A billion stars go spinning through the night
blazing high above your head.
But in you is the presence that
will be, when all the stars are dead.”
—Rainer Maria Rilke